You’ve probably heard people say “Parents are the experts on their child” or “You are your child’s best teacher.”
And I bet, while the sentiment was nice, you were annoyed.
I get it! It is annoying to hear that when you just want someone to tell you how to help your child. Why would you have asked for help otherwise? You know that the specialists, whether they be therapists, or teachers, or daycare providers, have answers, so why won’t they just give them to you?!?
You’re not going to like what I have to say. Because the truth of the matter is, you really are the expert on your child.
You are the one who has spent countless days and long nights with them. You know what makes them smile, what silly faces will make them laugh. You know when they need to sleep, what their favorite snacks are, and how to cuddle them in that perfect way. I may have a ton of information and expertise on developmental milestones, but all of it is essentially useless unless we can apply it to you, your child, and your life.
Think about it. If I come to your house, work with your child for an hour, then leave, how will that help? How are they going to continue to grow and develop when I’m not there? It is only when we apply strategies and expertise to your individual needs that children can truly excel.
What can you do to share that knowledge with the "professionals"?
Take note of specific times when things are challenging. Examples are awesome, and so helpful. By sharing specifics, the person you are working with will have more information about things that are hard and things that should be a priority.
And when things go well! Good examples are even better! That is how we learn what is motivating and will interest you and your child.
Tell them what you have already tried, and what works for your routine. Don't be afraid to speak up. If you are getting suggestions that you have already done with little to no success, or if you know its just not something you are going to do, then say it. I don't want you to get frustrated and feel like you are wasting your time with things you know won't work.
So take pride in your expertise, y’all! And don’t let anyone tell you they know best.
Share your expertise on you little one! What makes your child unique and special?Tell us below or write it down in your journal.
Interested in learning strategies to help your child that are based on your incredible knowledge, you amazing human, you? Contact me for a free initial consult. I’d love to work together.
